4 Levels of Self-Talk

Levels of Self-Talk

“May we learn to speak to ourselves in a more deserving manner. May we achieve a level of self-talk that tugs at our hearts, touches our hopes, and paints in the pictures that color our dreams. May we strengthen the armor of our spirit and harden the steel of our determination.”

Self-Talk is a way to override our past negative programming by replacing it with conscious new positive direction.

It offers us the opportunity to no longer be the product of conditioned response and instead to be governed by personal choice.

Level 1 – The Level of Negative Acceptance

Represents our simplest misgivings and our worst fears we have about ourselves.

It is the source of our hesitation, questioning of our capabilities, and our justification for accepting less than we know we could have done.

It turns self-assurance into self-doubt and chaos.

Level 2 – The Level of Recognition and a Need to Change

“This level is beguiling”. On the surface, it looks as though it should work for us. But instead, it works against us.

This level recognizes the need for change but still leaves us with an internal message that sounds like…

“I would really like to be…but I am not”…which leaves us stuck in place.

Level 3 – The Level of Decision to Change (“I never…” or “I no longer…”)

This is the first level of self-talk that works for us rather than against us. In this level, we recognize the need to change and make the decision to do something about it.

We state our decision in the present tense as though the change has already taken place. We have faith in the fact that the subconscious mind will believe anything you tell it as long as you tell it long enough and strongly enough.

Level 4 – The Level of the Better You (“I am…”)

This is the kind of self-talk that is needed most. This level of self-talk inspires, encourages, urges, and implores. It excites, demands, and pushes us forward.

At this level, we paint a completed new picture of ourselves the way we really want to be. We plant this picture in our subconscious making it become true.

We state our new picture and behaviors in the present tense and give our brains a completed picture of the task and goal we wish to accomplish.

Notes Taken From:

Helmstetter, Shad, (1982). What to say when you talk to yourself. Scottsdale, AZ: Grindle Press

Achieving Goals – What to Say When You Talk To Yourself

“Give life to your dreams, strength to your visions, and light to your path”

Grant your journey the assurance of a safe arrival

Give Life to Your Dreams, Give Strength to Your Visions, Give Light to Your Path

Set Worthy Goals:

Setting goals, and working at reaching them, is an important piece of becoming a healthy human being.

Worthy goals are essential to true and lasting fulfillment.

Choose the Right Words:

Grant your journey the assurance of a safe arrival.

Give to your goals the gift of your own self-assurance.

Add the words of daily direction and encouragement of self-talk to your goals.

Any well-set goal deserves the benefit of well-said words.

Practice Mindfulness:

Monitor your self-talk by practicing mindfulness – a concept from the practice of meditation.

Mindfulness heightens our awareness and helps us take control of the story we tell ourselves.

Mindfulness is the presence of a calm, alert, and deliberate awareness of the present moment.

-Notes from the Book “What to say when you talk to yourself” by Shad Helmstetter, PHD.